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  • What makes a woman, a woman? #InfertilityNotATaboo

    what-makes-a-woman-a-woman #InfertilityNotATaboo

    What makes a woman, a woman?

    ‘A woman is a human who is generous, full of compassion, affection; possess grace with lots of patience. She has a strong will power.’

    How a man can’t be defined with these characteristics?

    ‘Well yes, but woman is associated with everything that is love.’

    But still, why you call someone a woman?

    ‘Man and a woman have different anatomies. A Woman is called a woman because she creates new life. She gives birth.’

    What if she can’t?

    (poker face, don’t know the answer)

    If she can’t give a birth, she is not a woman?

    (still searching for the answer)

    This week, I put people around me in a situation where they responded in the way, you just read.

    A Woman, or a female of the species, is someone who carries a child in her womb and gives birth. Man or a male who gives sperm for the reproduction process. What if a man or a woman for any given reason is not capable to reproduce?

    Infertility is considered as a taboo. It is as hurting for a man as for a woman. When we are living in a society where it’s a habit of encroaching somebody’s personal problem and brutally trolling them in public that it actually becomes a curse for them, one can imagine how abusive it can go for women.

    Women who are infertile are considered inauspicious and not allowed to perform certain rituals. Many times they are not welcomed at celebrations and festivities in families, in the fear that their presence will bring bad luck to the host family.  Why are infertile men not treated this way? Why no one stops socializing and chuck them out of the society as any infertile woman is subjected to? This is a bizarre thing to not invite a woman who can’t have a baby (and in many cases who doesn’t want to have a baby at that phase of her life) to a baby shower ceremony. A female doesn’t get pregnant or lose her ability to get pregnant by touch or presence of some person in the room or the house!

    The focus here is not to compare as who is treated how, the pain they are going through is same, whether being a man or a woman. It’s a personal issue; problem arises when others start making it a big deal and go on to label the woman as ‘Banjh’

    It’s a personal issue; problem arises when others start making it a big deal and go on to label the woman as ‘Banjh’

    Infertility is a disease

    A human body has many systems that make it function and work properly. Digestive system, Circulatory System, Endocrine system, Exocrine system, Immune system, Skeleton system, Nervous system, Urinary system, Respiratory system and Reproduction system.  If any system does not work the way it is meant to be, we call it as a disability or a disease.

    We take care of blind people, physically handicap, people who are going through depression and various other ailments. Unfortunately, people who have medical problems with their reproduction system are chucked out from the society instead of helping them. I look for a logical reason and found none.

    If a person who is not able to speak, hear or see things due to their disability is not put down as ‘bringing disgrace’ to their family, then how a woman who is not fertile can be cornered like that. Till the time we educate our own society against this prejudice, that infertility is a disease, not a curse, we inadvertently add misery to a woman’s (and in some cases a man’s) life.  These women have already lost their mental peace, confidence, some relationships and a huge amount of money in treatments, isn’t it enough?

    I look for a logical reason and found none.

    A woman’s nightmare

    I met this lady who has just turned 38, some days back. She is married for 6 years and is now in dilemma. She wants to have a baby but at the same time is no rush for now. Her husband is quite okay with this, in fact, they together took this decision. They do not want a baby till last year because of their professional struggle and financial crunch. Now they are trying but not that desperate. Her doubt is, as her biological clock is ticking and if she is not able to conceive, her husband may leave her and marry someone else.

    Theirs is a love marriage. During this sensitive discussion, while she was opening up and sharing her fears and dilemmas, I was thinking it’s all in her head and nothing of this intensity is going to happen. Now, my rational mind backed this thought. They both have not met any doctor. They do not know the issue if there is any and with whom. It might be not their right alignment with the time to have a baby.

    It was difficult to sleep that night. Her question kept bothering me ‘my husband may leave me, to marry someone else.’ They were not trying earlier because of both of their financial insecurity. If they need a treatment and they delayed it for some reason, how is it her fault? Why she will be shown out the doors?

    How a woman becomes ‘not a good wife’ if she can’t deliver a baby?

    I understand when one decide to end the marriage on grounds of infidelity, compatibility, lack of love, cruelty etc. What I don’t understand is after so many years of marriage one decides to divorce the partner because they cannot produce a baby. How can a relationship break over not having a child? Does she stop loving and supporting her husband? Does she stops taking responsibilities of a wife and daughter in law? Does she stops being the kind of sane person she used to be? Does she become inhuman? She remains the same. She can be going through depression, partly because she is upset with herself, partly because of the treatment of the society.  All she needs is a support not isolation.

    Solutions and Scars

    Our medical sciences have advanced so much and now there are many treatments that a woman can undertake to be able to have a baby (other than suggested fasts and rituals by the society). All these methods are extremely painful and horribly expensive. One can take years and years to respond to them and results are not always guaranteed. Both husband and wife get drained themselves and deplete all their savings in the hope. They are already going through a lot. We as a society should take the responsibility of not taunting them all this while #InfertilityIsNotATaboo .It is plain simple medical problem and the couple is already taking treatment for that.

    If nothing works, adoption is also a solution. What more beautiful can be, to be parents to someone who needs them. Unfortunately, adoption is also scrutinized by some in society. They go one labeling the woman as ‘banjh’ and abusive titles for the child.

    Motherhood

    Adoption is a personal choice. A woman may not want to give birth, it’s her choice.  In any situation, her motherly feelings are not lost. She will play with kids, love them the same way. Motherhood is experiencing or raising a child. Infertility has nothing to do with behavior, likes, dislikes and emotions. She is still a woman if she can’t give birth.

    So I finally ask again

    What makes a woman, a woman?


     

    This blog is to #SpreadAwareness about Infertility through Infertility Dost, India’s first website that facilitates couples to brave infertility with support and knowledge. You can find other links  on Write Tribe

  • Coolest whatsapp status on whatsstatus.com

    We at sillysense.com are always thriving to introduce you with new and interesting businesses, artists and communities around. This time we are here to make you put the coolest whatsapp status in the town, like a pro. Say hello to whatsstatus.com

    whatsstatus-com

    Whatsapp is the most popular application on our smart phones. It was launched as an instant messaging app but due to its popularity and ease of use it is arguably the best social media network today. The moment you share your whatsapp number with someone, the first thing they notice after your profile picture is your status.

    If you are one of those, whose status is ‘Available / Busy / At School / At work/ Battery about to die’ and most notably ‘can’t talk, whatsapp only’ then you should be totally jumping onto Whatsapp Status and find one personalized yet appropriate status for yourself, right now.

    Considering the youth spends almost all day communicating on whatsapp, it becomes a cool way for them to update their contacts with their whatsapp status. Some like to change status with every hour during the day.  Watching a match or fighting with bae, or putting up slay status messages, people do it all.

    Coming up with cool, witty, creative and crazy whatstapp status can be difficult at all the times. In order to keep the fun going with the never ending stock of fresh status messages, you should check out whatsstatus,com

    You can find:

    a)         New whatsapp status daily

    b)         Unique statuses, without the vibe of ‘this message is fresh in the market, spread it like fire’

    c)         Status messages from 60 different categories to choose from.

    d)         Real emotions or jokes shared by real people.

    Whatsstatus.com is the largest pool of whatsapp status messages on internet and it is said that they add hundreds of unique status across 60 categories daily.

    Apart from regular Love, Friendship, Broken Heart, jokes or motivational categories, whatsstatus.com offers some more interesting categories that many can relate and personalize like

    Food whatsapp statuses on whatsstatus.com

    “People are use to be alcoholic and I am addicted to eat……..”

    Birthday whatsapp statuses on whatsstatus.com

    “Eat birthday cake..with no counting of calories and no calculation of age”

    Angry whatsapp statuses on whatsstatus.com

    “Yes, you are caddish and wag, but I am an affable person though not a timid one. So just wait for my revenge. Ok!”

    Exam whatsapp statuses on whatsstatus.com

    “I get super power during the last five minutes of any exam!”

    Girls whatsapp statuses on whatsstatus.com

    “My beauty is not to fascinate you, If my heart says ‘Yes I am beautiful’, I don’t need another consent….”

    There are many more categories that you should check out.

    By the way, what’s your whatsapp status?

  • Mood of the Nation – #UriAttacks

    On September 18, 2016, an Indian Army brigade, located at Uri in Jammu and Kashmir was attacked by armed militants. After the long battle, four of them were confirmed killed, but unfortunately, 17 lives of Indian Soldiers were also claimed. This is said to be the deadliest attack in North India region in recent years.

    India is respectfully known as a peaceful nation. The one who is always willing to sit down, discuss and solve the issues without going the war way. But this time, the mood of the nation is just not to condemn this situation.

    See how Twitter India has reacted on #UriAttacks

    Gautam Gambhir, Cricketer

    Ajay Devgun, Actor – Director – Producer

    How general public is reacting !!

    Some are furious and demand an action.

    Some were able to find a coincidence…

    And, this is what Gurbani Buttar (Spangle Street), the celebrity Fashion and Lifestyle Blogger from Chandigarh, has to say

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    Lastly, at SillySense, we wish this time everyone should come together and react like a – NATION

    Dear Indians,

    Let’s be a nation this time.
    Let’s not be from some religion, caste, state, quota etc etc
    Let’s show our anger together.
    Let’s not just condemn.

    They were our soldiers.
    They were there to protect us.
    They were Indians.
    They were our nation.

    Let’s raise our voice.
    Let’s demand an action.
    Let’s make some noise.
    Let’s force government take concrete action.

    Let’s do this, THIS TIME.

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  • How to make sure it’s a High Value Content?

    How to make sure it’s a High Value Content?

    Lately, have you felt that your content is not getting many shares and views? No matter how much time you have devoted to creating a particular piece, at the end, it is not getting the result that you desired?

    Bloggers, You Tubers and all the content creators / producers, may I have your attention, please. Thank you.

    high quality content

    Content is king, but why no traffic in the wing?

    There was a time when it was preached ‘Content is King’, so to get the maximum benefits everyone started posting high quantity of stuff and paid a little attention to the quality. That high quantity content is not bringing you enough laurels in the form of traffic, social media shares, leads or any sort of proposals. Looking at the falling numbers you might have speed up publishing more content. You are putting efforts and finding new ways of recreating interesting content. But then again, it is also under – performing as per your planning sheets. Now, if Facebook ads get near to 0.05% of CTR, then it pretty much explains the downfall phenomenon, and you should feel alarmed.

    The reason for getting lower views is not because people are not interested in media or they have gone back to reading newspapers and watching televisions. Instead, the reason is that today, there are too many content creators like you. Let’s check, how many YouTube stars you were aware of in 2010 or even in 2012? If you started blogging in 2008, then how many bloggers were around you? Now, what are the numbers in 2016? The graph is skyrocket high.  So if these many people will publish new content so frequently like the way you are doing, chances are less that your content will be seen and the consumed by the masses.

    High- quality stuff.  Ehh??

    You might wish to advocate your content as “High- quality” content. To justify yourself, here is a self-analysing guide, to justify, if your content is epic, sans your follower count or mailing list.

    1. Your blog / website / YouTube channel etc is growing exponentially with time.

    Once you publish your content and do not put any efforts to promote it, see how many backlinks / social media shares / leads you can generate through it?

    When I say ‘not putting any efforts to promote your content’ I mean, you are not pushing your content with any sponsored or manual shares. If your SEO is getting you traffic and your mailing list and by default connected social media channels are getting your clicks and some leads, then your content is ‘high-quality’ and people are liking it.

    Go ahead, gear up your game; your results are growing with time.

    1. Would anyone pay for it?

    In case if you have to sell your content, independently, will anyone be interested in buying that? If yes, then for how much? Your content’s worth and capability should be much more than a like, comment, share, subscribe or even exchange of what’s app number or an email id.

    If someone can actually buy your content for real money, then you are producing ‘high-quality’ content.

    1. Does anybody care?

    To keep the buzz on and maintain the excitement level with your readers you keep them posted about your latest projects and what they may see published next from your side.

    How many times you get messages from readers to know what and when you are publishing your next? How many times are you approached by PR people or other brands for quotations? What if you do not publish for long?

    This small yet harsh guide will be able to give you all the answers and raise some questions for your hustle to publish more and more.  We still say, ‘content is king’, but that king needs to be produced with King’s pedigree.

    So, what should you do now?

    Now, this doesn’t mean you should scrap your content or give utmost time to prepare your masterpieces. Instead, this is the time; you should re-evaluate the role and the objective of your need, to create the content.

    Creating content for you is as huge as your whole business model. It is also a critical (substantial) part of your marketing plan. The more content you create, the more marketing efforts you will need to put in order to be consumed by the masses and thus giving you business.

    Blogs or Vlogs are your products which are slightly different than “traditional” products in the market.  Your marketing plan can be awesome but at the same time, your product should also be matching those efforts.  Fortunately or unfortunately (depends on how you see this) your product is your each and every piece of content. In order to make it awesome, you have to sit and make a new plan. You can’t rest a day and let your product sell passively.

    Every piece of content is a big deal.

    It will be wise to say, you should sit back and re-plan your content strategy.  Focus on quality production and increase your marketing activities.

  • Best Bollywood contest ever happened

    Do you love Bollywood? I am sure you do. Like me, you also follow Bollywood stars on their social media profiles, in magazines and on gossip websites to be updated with their latest news.

    follo

    Now you can follow your favourite celebrities on follo.in . Just log in and connect with your stars. You can catch hold of them and interact with them through the gadgets in your hand. And this time, earn reward Z for all the knowledge you have gathered over the years. These stars can shine up your day too, there are chances to win up to INR 1 lakh, including an iPhone 6. Yes, an iPhone 6 just follo-ing your stars !! This is the best Bollywood website where you can earn rewardz and be updated with anything that this Bollywood.

    The website has multiple sections. To have your daily dose of Bollywood you can go to Star Buzz (link here) which is further quirkly divided into 3 sections – B20, Bollywood Masala and Featured gallery. Just roam around and be amused by the star gaze.

    If you are excited to earn Bollywood rewardz check the section Bolly rewardz 

    It’s pretty simple and self-explanatory to earn rewardz point and claiming your gift item through website and app. Use your facebook or google account and get started at follo.in

    By getting started you will be able to earn 250 rewardz points. Voting “Hot or Not’ will get you 5 rewardz points, follo-ing a celebrity will earn you 10 and every like will give you 5 Bolly rewardz points.

    When sufficient Bolly rewardz points are accumulated, you can redeem them against amazing products and offers on the website / app itself.

    So if you are from know-it-all with tremendous Bollywood knowledge then this content is for you! But then if you feel you have MOMO disorder i.e mystery of missing out then you can check Hot on Follo section and gratify your senses.

    Salman Khan, Aamir Khan, Shahrukh Khan, Katrina Kaif, Sunny Leone, Alia Bhatt, Priyanka Chopra, Rajinikanth, Deepika Padukone they all are there with their latest Bollywood news, facepalm moments, interviews, chic attires and much more.

    See you on follo.in
    Follo social handles :
    FB – Follocelebs
    Twitter – @Follocelebs
    YouTube – Follocelebs

  • Star Trek Beyond – A Space Adventure.

    Star Trek – The Beyond Experience

    The Buzz around Star Trek’s latest flick that was released in India on July 22, 2016 was very much expected. After all, only aliens can have a take on Rajnikant for a spectacular box office clash. Being a true movie buff I was looking forward to watching and experience the most iconic release of Star Trek rebooted series. To my delight, it was the best cinematic experience I had in 2016. Thank you #StarTrekInIndia.

    Star Trek Beyond
    Star Trek is a craze in itself. The franchise has always been dominating the techies and grabbing their attention as well as amusement since its inception. It is a wholesome treat for those having science fiction fantasies. Speculation in media just to have a glimpse of character’s looks, photos from sets or even spotting extras outside the studios has always created hustle and bustle. This reinforces the craze of Star Trek with people.
    In lieu of the release of Star Trek Beyond – A Space Adventure (which is absolutely a must watch !!), here are some little-known facts about the #StarTrek series.

    • Star Trek Beyond celebrates the 50th anniversary of the original TV series debut show, which was released in 1966.
    • The famous quote said by Captain Kirk in the original series “to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilisations to boldly go where no man has gone before” was there to describe the goal of the mission. This quote motivated zillions of fans that it actually became their goal, mission, and vision of living the life.
    • Star Trek Beyond has the intrepid space mission in which the main characters of the movie Captain Kirk, Spock and their friends head out on a 5-year long mission. (Take a clue, the next series will continue the plot and be a bigger treat).
    • Since the movie is releasing to mark the 50th anniversary of the most iconic science fiction series we have ever seen, it inherently picks up the ongoing story. Star Trek Beyond also entertains with new adventurous flavours that definitely tickles the new age audience (our very own millennial, who believe they are ahead in everything) and they are loving it.
    • Director Justin Lin gave us another surprising punch with Idris Elba. He is indeed playing a villain but not Klingon, as it was rumoured. It is highly suggested to watch the movie yourself to know more about his role and how his voice is doing all the work.
    • The movie has a gay character.
    • The movie leaves you with an optimistic dose.

    Technologies are getting upgraded so frequently that it is difficult to keep up with the audience likings and living up to the expectations of the awesome work prequels have done. Captain James and Spook are back with Star Trek Beyond and the audience are giving rave reviews.
    Star Trek Beyond is ought to tickle the science fiction fantasy in your taste buds and take your love for travel to another level.

  • Do things. Feel Alive

    Do Things Feel alive

    Do something that keeps you alive.

    Stuffed inside your comfy sofa, chilling with music, having a cup of coffee in one hand and following internet celebs for what they are upto. Taking screenshots and making notes of almost everything. If you believe you are working, then let me tell you – its nothing. It can be anything  but doing !

    Enough of absorbing things and talking great about what others have done.  Please stop looking at what millennials are doing. What are their work ethics. How large or easily available network they have. See how carelessly they are taking risks, churning out their creativeness and consistently giving out new every time.  You might be in 20s or just entering in your 30s. Well, you might have experienced your market for more than 2 decades and now in 40s. It doesn’t even matter.

    Start doing things, yourself. Jump onto the wagon, make mistakes and see what works for you.  Put your hands on that “Enter” button and do it now. There are no books, no laid rules about how to progress. Of course there are theories, some well executed case studies that you can follow and plan your thing. If you have absorbed tons and tons of knowledge, your next craving should be to get that into your work.

    Everyone is a learner. But as a Entrepreneur / a startup guy / freelancer / artist / blogger / influencer our working should not stop because we are still-learning-so-taking-break phase.

    Keep doing things.
    Learn the best while doing.
    Doing is what makes feel alive.

    More power to you
    SillySense

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  • Embrace the mess

    Embrace the mess

    We are artists.
    We are full of ideas.
    Our diaries are messy.
    We are fussy with choices.
    We can tell things precisely.
    We are active at 2 am
    We need a nap at 8 am.
    Our phones are full of screenshots.
    Our goals shinning on boards.
    We want this, we want that.
    We interact and make friends.
    We subscribe to nearly everything.
    We dream and desire
    one day we will inspire.

    This short messy poem is for all those entrepreneurs, freelancers, artists, home based business people who are continuoulsy thinking and doing things. They know no limits, they keep on doing and finding a way to their dreams.

    “Being in this mess, makes you imperfectly perfect. You own this”

    Cheers to everyone of you
    SillySense

    PS: If this makes sense, please share it for those who may also appreciate and are lovely in their own unique mess.

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  • 99 things that did not work out

    The key is in those 99 things that did not work out.

    99 things

    “Once upon a time there was a King and his Queen, they had a vision of serene and prosperous kingdom where only love flows … and then they made this happen.”

    Viral stories. Profitable Business Models.  Celebrity Start Ups.  Flood of  Followers. .. Nothing just happen overnight, neither there is any coined strategy for this. Just look at all those 99 things that are not working out for you, analyse them, find some missing directions and you will yourself create that ONE thing which works out !!

    I have got 99 problems and failure is none of them.

    There is absolutely no one who has reached their desired destination in first shot. For success there might be 99 things that have gone wrong. Don’t see them as failures and then eventually go on to  reject the whole idea or method in your due course of action. Sit back, relax and observe them again. Learn why these 99 things failed. Which direction you missed and how close were you.

    These 99 things that did not work out are important. Go back to all the ideas you listed in initial stage, who knows you may find some hidden treasure there.  You can be either an entrepreneur, a freelancer,  a home based start-up or may be a creative genius artist.  You all have burned your midnight oil in statistics, targets, data sheets and what not ! You have buried your days travelling and meeting people for real or in virtual world (browsing, searching  and interacting  thousands through social media). Shouted your USPs like crazy and shower for longer hours to create new master plans. You have partied on Saturday nights to chill down, pour all your heart in your work but still got injured and success looks like a little away.

    You read case studies and success stories, they are all about that 1 thing which took the person to success. I am trying to make you re think that you are trying but still not taking you to success and find those 99 things in all those success stories you are reading.

    The King and Queen have travelled the journey well with their 99 things in those small 3 dots, you never got to see them.

    Good Luck.

    SillySense

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  • Weight Wise Revolution by Dr Anu Gupta : Kindle Weight Loss Book (Grab the offer)

    Update June 12, 2016
    This book is now available at 99 cents only. Go to amazon link – https://www.amazon.in/dp/B01GG8J26M

    We all are guilty of not being happy with our weight gain and many times keep searching weight loss techniques. This whole world is full of confusing weight loss researches, conclusions and sadly food products are manufactured as market friendly not health friendly.

     

    Work Wise Resolution by Dr Anu Gupta

    Work Wise Resolution by Dr Anu Gupta (click on image to grab this book)

    Dr Anu Gupta is a Consultant Radiologist, coach, author, speaker, workshop leader and a new mom to a 10 months old angel has herself struggled al her life losing over 40 pounds. She has encapsulate all her experience in this books with a complementary workbook. She ensures that you can permanently lose weight without boring diets, calorie counting maths, over promising drugs on internet and painful gym routines.

     

    Check out what Dr Anu Gupta, has to say about her debut book.

     

     Preview first few pages of this book and know what it has to offer you – http://dranugupta.com/book/

     

    This book is totally FREE at Kindle for few hours only – till June 5, 2016 noon IST.

     

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